Using the cards with a group

Choose a question card, share it, then think by yourself for a minute. Pair up to share your responses, then chat around the group asking: “what is our shared experience on this topic”. Listen for connection.

Other questions to use for groups:

• What differences can we find on this question?

• How can we grow closer in this?

• Are there actions we can take together about this question?

• What would we like to know more about? How can we discover this together?

• What can I learn from you about this?

Ways to play

• Choose the questions for each other.

• Choose your own question and allow each person to choose a different one.

• Offer the deck and ask others to choose a question they are happy to answer

• Make a rule: Pick your comfort zone and answer only what’s comfortable.

• Let each question be a launch pad for more of your own questions!

Active listening can make it a rich experience.

• Give all your attention

• Listen for feelings

• Observe other cues, like body language

• Be curious: ask for more detail, to go deeper

• Stay quiet until you hear everything there is to hear

• Ask: am I trying to tell my story instead of listening to theirs?

• Own your own opinions and beliefs, start sentences with “I think…”, or “it seems to me”, or “In my opinion”

• Ground your statements – that is, attach it to the group or source it belongs to. For instance: “In my culture…”, or “ many Australians have experienced…”